silver, you may be biased, but you were honest and not fanboyish at all. ^_^
I'll give my opinion in a similar way, as an owner of both systems:
- 360 online >>>> PS3 online - Games have a mostly standard way of getting multiplayer to work, it's smoother to connect. Also, nearly everyone has a headset.
- 360 controller = PS3 pad - The d-pad on the 360 is horrible, the analog on the PS3 isn't as easy to use, 360's is slightly more comfortable and ergonomic. I also highly suggest not using the PS3's "six-axis" controller, and get a Dual Shock 3. It's much firmer, not so light you feel it'll float away, and it vibrates.
- # exclusives = on both - This one is open to more debate. Do you like GEARS of War or GOD of War? The only way to decide is to look. LittleBigPlanet is a masterpiece, btw.
# people owning each - Entirely depends on you. All of my friends online have 360s, some have PS3s. NONE of my local friends have 360s, all have PS3s. I needed both to play with all my friends.
Sexiness - Your opinion ... I only don't like that the 360 is white, because every console I own is black, except the ps1.
Defectiveness, 360 < PS3 - Yeah, RROD (Red Ring of Death) sucks, my sweetie's did it late last week. But the new systems are much more reliable, and as they break, they're being replaced with new ones. DO NOT BUY A USED 360. If you get a new one, this point may mean nothing to you
Streaming Netflix on the 360 is WONDERFUL, and I completely love it! I use it a lot. I also have a friend (lives downstairs) that has more money then anyone should, and lets me borrow every movie I want, DVD or Blu-Ray, and BRD (Blu Ray Discs) are phenomenally beautiful. This does in fact mean the PS3 can hold more info on a disc then the 360, but so far, it's meant little. This will likely change over time, though, as people get used to programming the PS3 and start to take advantage over it.
I can't remember who, but a programmer for some dev house said that the two consoles are very similar in power. The PS3 has a more powerful processor, but the 360 has a more powerful graphics system. They both have the same amount of RAM, but it's more customizable in the way that you can use the memory as you want, where the PS3 has dedicated application and graphics RAM.
All in all, I love both, but lean towards the 360 slightly. The big plus for the PS3 for me? My friends and I share our games. Any game you download can be downloaded to up to 5 PS3s.... I have a LOT of PSN games. ^_^
Edit: I forgot about something that levels the Netflix issue, but isn't nearly as elegant as Netflix on the 360: PlayOn.
http://www.themediamall.com/playon What it does is let you stream Netflix, Amazon unbox, YouTube, Hulu, CBS, and a few others to BOTH consoles. The PlayOn software runs on your computer, and it's the middleman between the console and the sites you want video from. It pulls the video down, and sends it to the console. It's shareware, will work for like a month, then want to be registered. It's $39.99 now, but I got it for $29.99 since I bought it months ago at the 'introductory price'. Now if I miss a TV show, I can watch it on Hulu on my TV instead of sitting at the PC. ^_^